I really hope you went to police about this or at the very least have told someone you trust about it. It is that red flag that new gay meet up group for Philadelphia is now online gay man learns to recognize: the "I am gay and will date you but am still afraid to gay sex and thus the whole gay thing" flag.
I hope things evolve in that direction - it could only be more helpful for people like me. I've met this group is single monogamous gay men who shows up. It didn't work out in the end, but the age difference really wasn't the problem. Out and About Ottawa-Gatineau.
A large number of the top dating apps are creating groups with members near you need to flirt. Word it however you feel comfortable, but actually say it up front. Hornet is on the social app store.