To live for a while in the capital of the world, New York. Want to see a man at his most creative? He was also very homophobic, making fun of effeminate men.
And he would tell me it was my fault to reinforce that. For me, religion is a matter of philosophy. Just because of my orientation. I guess I was absent the day in sex Ed that said this was ok. Men like working in the mud, getting dirty. I was not one of the people to experiment with that, but it was nothing that was unheard of.